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It seems like it might be somewhere in the middle? If it’s a Relationship then I think she probably has a secret double life or else is simply not the right match for you and you should move on to more verdant pastures with lighter wind chill. I’m also not sure if you guys are still casually dating or if this is a Relationship. Those are all also things that are tough to put a timeline on, especially during a pandemic!

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Other milestones I’d put into the “pace” category are things like the speed at which you start sleeping together, calling yourselves girlfriends/partners/etc, being each other’s plus ones for events, being public about your relationship, meeting each other’s friends, meeting each other’s family, spending holidays together, making it clear you are dating on social media, becoming exclusive if monogamy is your thing, etc. Beyond that I think you’ll find a variety of opinions. (I think we often leave that out of the conversation, which is so weird! At least personally, financial circumstances were usually the #1 or #2 factor driving premature commitments in my past relationships.) Barring any external circumstances that make moving in together necessary, moving in together in under a year seems fast, as does getting engaged in under a year. Unfortunately, and as is so often the case, there is no one answer to that question, and it’s totally different for different people depending on your circumstances! Especially co-habitation since that has a huge economic factor as well. “What does going slow mean for lesbians, when the stereotype of a U-Haul is pretty applicable to me most of the time?”

That said, let’s move away from what I want to know for myself about your local climate and what you want to know for yourself! Okay first of all: is she a meteorologist? How much weather conversation is possible in any given day! Do you live in an area with a lot of natural disasters so the weather is like, a pertinent topic? I HAVE SO MANY QUESTIONS ABOUT PRIORITIZING WEATHER TALK AS THE EXALTED SOLE TEXTING TOPIC! We’ve had two conversations about our differing communication styles so far and I hope she can meet me half way but I definitely need advice on what “going slow” looks like. I don’t think I want to end it, and I don’t want to push her away by pushing this with her. How do I keep my expectations in check? What does going slow mean for lesbians, when the stereotype of a U-Haul is pretty applicable to me most of the time? I like her, and I enjoy spending time with her, but it feels odd to me that my feelings aren’t on a steady incline and it’s weird to me to not talk for days on end. I acknowledge these are her boundaries and I probably need to learn a thing or two about going slow. She is willing to compromise and do more phone calls in between dates but is holding firm at no texting about anything other than the weather. This is resulting in my feelings going up and down when we see each other I feel connected and like I’m building feelings and then we have days or more of barely speaking and when we do it’s about the weather and my feelings go down. She also isn’t a big texter and we can go days without having a proper conversation, which is compounded by the fact that she won’t discuss anything via text except for the weather or how work was. She has said she wants to go slow which is fine however I tend to move fast (last relationship moved in after four weeks) so this is an adjustment for me. I am 33 (female, she/her) and dating 31 (female, she/her), it’s been about three months now.

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